Note: This post has been sitting unpublished in my WP drafts folder since February 13th. Spring cleaning in progress — decided it was time to delete it or share it. Sharing won out, today. :))
“There is no need to run, strive, search, or struggle. Just be. Just being in the moment in this place is the deepest practice of meditation. Most people cannot believe that just walking as though you have nowhere to go is enough. They think that striving and competing are normal and necessary. Try practicing aimlessness for just five minutes, and you will see how happy you are during those five minutes.” — Thich Nhat Hanh. (Read more at www.mindfulnessbreaks.com/blog/)
Turns out the experts were right. Publishing/broadcasting goals creates a mental blocker (for me, at least) to getting them done. And then the maddening, insistent goals sit like a row of withered plants on a windowsill, becoming a cause of dissatisfaction instead of joy. I’ve lost my urge to water them.
So why do I no longer feel like “watering” my goals? Well, according to various sources (such as Psychology Today), I felt the satisfaction normally experienced by achieving the goals from the very act of announcing the goals. Thus I have no further desire to achieve them.
But I would also venture to say that it’s because after announcing them, the goals seemed no longer to be for me alone.
When I posted the goals online, something changed in my perception of them.
I subconsciously felt that readers of my blog became psychologically invested in the outcome of my stated goals. (If you actually did feel a little “invested,” it’s because you genuinely care for my welfare and success, which is wonderful, and for which I’m truly grateful. Thank you, dear blog friends! ❤︎)
But I’ve since realized that these particular goals can only be for me, if they continue to exist at all. Otherwise I can’t continue to achieve them; they’ve lost their purpose.
There are many things I do for the sake of other people. But my personal goals — no matter how tiny or grand, and which are, after all, in existence for my personal development only — can’t become a part of those things. Not even in my subconscious.
So… I hereby absolve myself from all publicly-stated personal goals.
This doesn’t mean I won’t still be achieving them. Perhaps I will, perhaps I won’t. But it’s time for a little official “tabula rasa” in my life.
Now, I’d love to hear from you. How do you feel about announcing goals? Have you ever had any personal successes/failures in this area? I’d love to read your thoughts in the comments!
With love and gratitude,
njl @ bloomwords.com
Thank you so much for reading and responding. Your presence here, as always, means the world to me. ❤︎